Some couples experiencing difficulties communicating with each other or even getting along have considered marriage counseling therapy. There may be some skepticism about using a therapist due to lack of familiarity with the process or a general belief that the issues creating the divide in the relationship are too significant to overcome. Regardless, some couples do experience success in their marriage with the assistance of a therapist. However, each circumstance is different as there are a myriad of factors that affect this outcome.
It is important to look at some of the causes that lead couples to a therapist’s couch. Some of the reasons couples have considered therapy include:
- A feeling that you have grown apart from each other
- Consistent, unproductive arguments about finances
- Significant life event or transition
- A feeling of a lack of love or intimacy
- A desire to avoid divorce
Therapists have been using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with couples experiencing martial problems. EFT is a therapeutic approach to counseling based on the premise that emotions are key to one’s identity. This type of therapy assumes that lacking emotional awareness or simply avoiding unpleasant emotions can cause harm. Therapists utilizing this this form of counseling can assist couples with:
- Becoming more aware of emotions
- Learn how to welcome, allow and regulate emotions
- Identify unhelpful emotions and learn to change them
- Develop alternative, healthy ways of coping with situations that elicit unhealthy emotions.
Although Emotionally Focused Therapy is one of the methods utilized by therapist, all methods require the participants to be open and honest. Like most therapeutic methods, EFT can help develop a compassionate stance toward each other’s emotional experience but is not meant for those being deceptive or manipulative. During a therapy session the professional will determine what triggers negative emotions between the parties. The theory is that understanding the true cause or trigger of negative emotions from either party will create a greater understanding of how to continue to successfully communicate, despite the presence of conflict. Couples have routinely turned to marriage counseling because it does have a positive track record for success. Despite this fact, some therapists note a lack of honesty, different goals, unwillingness to fully commit to the process and simply the therapist not being a good fit for the couple all as reasons why some counseling sessions are unsuccessful.
Marriage counseling does have a positive track record for certain couples. Ultimately, if there is a chance that counseling could help a couple resolve their conflict it should be pursued. The key here is that both parties must be interested and committed to fully participating in the counseling. The Faucette Law Firm, LLC has consulted with clients at all stages of the divorce proceeding. We represent clients in contested and uncontested divorce cases, legitimations, child custody, child support, alimony and modifications. We serve Atlanta, Fulton, DeKalb, Cobb, Douglas, Gwinnett, Clayton, Fayette and Henry counties. Contact our law firm today for a consultation.